Dear Doctor, You Were Right
I found out about Adrian's diagnosis during our routine 18 week ultrasound. I thought the only news I was getting was that he was going to be a boy. I just knew he was going to be a boy. What I didn't know was that he was going to carry something extra special.
Our OB/GYN told us they found soft markers for DS and we were immediately sent to you. I was visibly upset, crying, the tears wouldn't stop flowing. You walked in, introduced yourself and went straight to the ultrasound.
We found out he had all the markers for DS, including a heart defect, AV Canal. You said he was sorry multiple times, which I know was only because I was upset, not because Adrian had Down syndrome. But you looked me in the eye and said it was all going to be ok. You said he will grow up and do everything our daughter did, just a little bit later.
I'm so grateful for that. You never once mentioned termination. I went on to have an amniocentesis to confirm, and again when the results came back positive for Translocation Down Syndrome, he reassured us we will be ok.
You pointed us in the right direction and strongly encouraged we reach out to our local Down syndrome organization. I am forever grateful for your positivity and care. And you were right, he will be able to do anything, just on his own time.
October is Down Syndrome Awareness Month. This letter is part of the Down Syndrome Diagnosis Network’s #DearDoctor campaign. The purpose of this campaign is to raise awareness that there are nationally recognized guidelines in place on how to deliver a Down syndrome diagnosis- with current information and without bias.
You can let your doctor know how they did delivering the diagnosis by participating in DSDN’s Physician Feedback Program. If you are a parent of a young child with Down syndrome, connect with DSDN for information, connections and support.